When I visited with Dr. Charley Ferrer on her television show, one of the things we discussed during the segment on “Fifty Ways to Please Your Lover” was that sexy something that some women have regardless of their body type or looks.
They have innate self esteem and knowledge of themselves as sexy and beautiful creatures and that’s the most potent of mating calls – self empowerment.
I have never had that mating call. I was shy as a child and it took me forever to learn to be outgoing (yes, there are people who know me now who do not believe this, but trust me, I WAS SHY!!).
I’m also not all that into fancy clothes or make-up. I own more sneakers than I do dress shoes.
So where am I going with this?
It was recently time to update my publicity photos. Last time I went, I allowed the photog to convince me to go “glamorous”. I could see as he took the shots that he was wondering how he’d ever make me look good. I hated the photo, but needed it right away. It didn’t look like me. I looked older. It was a bomb. I stopped using the photo and substituted a casual shot taken at a signing, but . . .
Everyone was hounding me that I needed a new publicity shot, so it was with much trepidation that I finally gave in and went for new photos.
What a wonderful experience. I went to the Glamour Shots in Bridgewater Commons and two lovely young women assisted me — the two Nicoles! They made me feel sexy and full of life. The shots came out nicely (see below). What a difference their perception of me made in my perception of myself.
Now, I know people will say that you need to see yourself the way you want to be seen rather than seeing yourself through the eyes of others. Still, that’s not easy sometimes when you are inherently shy or have grown up as a tomboy.
In any case, the two Nicoles (as well as my daughter who came to hold my hand and cheer me on), gave me a new perspective and I think the photos reflect the comfort they made me feel during the shoot.
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