“A relationship, I think, is like a shark. You know, it has to constantly move forward or it dies. I think what we have on our hands is a dead shark.” –Alvy Singer (Woody Allen) to Annie Hall (Diane Keaton)(quote courtesy of Rotten Tomatoes)
My hubby and I always laugh at that line, because more often than we care to admit, we are faced with a dead shark. Luckily, not in our personal relationship since we’ve learned to change and grow during the long course of our marriage (not an easy thing to do and not always a thing that one can do without discord).
In our relationships and daily lives, dead sharks are about not making changes or taking risks. It’s about the comfort factor of certain things outweighing the need to make a change.
Who wouldn’t want comfort instead of the shark tank that so many of us fear? Don’t we all feel as if we are about to jump into an ocean of sharks ready to devour us when we take a risk? When we make a change about which we are uncertain?
I guess today’s thoughts have been prompted by so many recent changes in my life. Sending the one and only daughter to college. Rekindling a friendship with the hubby. Seeing nieces and nephews going to school or moving out or getting engaged. Then there are the changes at work and with my writing. Changes everywhere and yet . . .
If it wasn’t for all those changes, I’d be a dead shark. Stuck in place and not moving ahead. Not growing as a person or as a writer. Which I guess means that as hard as it seems to jump into the shark tank, it isn’t as scary as becoming a dead shark.
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