Caridad Pineiro® Romance Author
NY Times & USA Today Bestselling Romance Author
I’ve been to a number of RT Book Club Conventions and hope to get to another one soon. This is a photo from the 2011 convention in Los Angeles. It was lots of fun to visit with my California friends and get to meet so many new friends.
This was a new furry friend I encountered on the way to one of the workshops. He needed lots of manscaping and was into wearing a collar, but that didn’t stop me! LOL!
On this Guilty Pleasure Monday, let’s talk about what you find sexy in men!
I am a sucker for three things: Hands, those little V-things by a man’s hips and humor. Why the last? Well, when the little V-things are replaced by love handles and the hands aren’t as nimble as they used to be, humor keeps things alive.
Of course, those six pack abs are pretty attractive as well, but if the man’s got nothing between the ears, how long will they keep you happy? So I guess I have to add a fourth thing to my list: Intelligence. There is nothing sexier than a man with brains.
What about you? What do you find sexy in a man?
Now that I’ve got your attention this Monday morning, I’d like to hear from you about your Guilty Pleasures. You see, the three Nocturne Bites I was writing are now becoming Nocturne Cravings. Great name, Cravings. It speaks to what we desire. What we need. What turns us on.
Contrary to what some life coach said about romances ruining women, women can separate reality from fantasy. Reading romances is about being entertained and it’s also about believing in the happily-ever-after. That everyone will eventually find the person who is right for them and not necessarily a “perfect” man. I think we all know that there are no “perfect” people out there, but we hope to find someone who sustains us emotionally. That’s what romance is about.
But back to this discussion. What do you notice first in a man? Is there something that really attracts you, either physically or emotionally?
I have to confess that nice hands are something that catch my eye. Strong. Masculine. Well-kept but not manicure perfect. Real hands.
As for the emotional part: humor. A man who can make me laugh even when I am in my deepest dumpiest mood is golden.
How about you? Please take a moment to share and inspire me as I work on these upcoming novellas.
As a romance writer, even a paranormal romance writer, there is one thing that I cannot fail to do — deliver a Happily Ever After!
In books it’s easy to do if you set up the conflict correctly, know what issues need to be resolved and last, end the book while the couple are in the throes of that blissful true love moment.
In life, and in books, the Happily Ever After once that blissful moment is over is sometimes not so easy to maintain. It’s why I loved being able to revisit Diana and Ryder from DARKNESS CALLS in their second book – DEATH CALLS. It’s probably why I’ll write yet another story featuring them since readers understand that achieving that Happily Ever After can be difficult, but oh so joyous when it finally happens.
With the benefit of age and hopefully some wisdom, I look back at my marriage and realize that it hasn’t been easy staying married. There have been ups and down, most times caused by external pressures such as jobs, illnesses and deaths, but somehow through it all, we’ve not only persevered, we’ve stayed happy together.
Some might wonder how that’s possible. How do you slog through the rough times in life and still manage to keep alive the Happily Ever After?
I realized the other day that the answer was: Humor. Respect. Understanding.
Oh wait, that’s three answers, isn’t it! LOL!
But there it was, one way to Happily Ever After and not just in the books that I write, but in real life.
Find someone who can make you laugh and pick you up during the hard times. Someone who respects your opinions and your contributions to the relationship. Someone who understands your needs, both physical and mental. In reality, combine all those attributes and you will usually find Love and with Love comes the Happily Ever After.
How about you? For those of you who have been in long term relationships, what do you find keeps you going through good times and bad?
I’ve seen it over and over again and can’t agree more – The sexiest organ on a man is his brain. Especially when you couple it with using that brain to produce humor.
Humor is so sexy and for me, Kevin James is one of those examples of a man who is sexy by virtue of being funny and totally endearing. This is a shot of him in HITCH where he stole the show from Will Smith (another hottie) with his portrayal of a totally socially inept man in love from afar with a gorgeous and uber-wealthy woman.
What about you? Do you find humor and brains sexy?