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August 7, 2019February 17, 2021

#WednesdayWisdom – Fear of Failure

There are lots of things that can hold you back in life, but one of the biggest ones, at least for me, is fear of failure. A lot of that fear has to do with my writing life, I must confess. It can be draining to put all your heart and soul into a book and see it tank. It leaves its scars and it leaves its fears, namely the fear of failure. What if I write another one again and the same thing happens? It becomes a roadblock to your creativity until you tell yourself, “You can’t succeed unless you’re willing to fail.” It may feel like falling off a cliff, but do it to regain your creative freedom.

I think another part of the problem is that once writing becomes a “career” you start measuring your success based on sales which is probably one of the worst things you can do. Sales don’t necessarily mean you’ve written a good book and vice versa. What’s important is that you wrote the book of your heart and if even one person writes to you to say they liked it, you’ve succeeded!

So that’s my wisdom for today! I hope you won’t let fear of failure in your life keep you from reaching for your dreams.

Original Image by Stefan Keller from Pixabay

May 21, 2019February 17, 2021

#TransformationTuesday – Success is Sweet

It’s a joyful day for so many reasons. For starters Memorial Day is just a few days away and that means more time on the beach as well as better weather for long strolls on the boardwalk. Happy times for sure. But it’s also a joyful day because I broke past that weight plateau I mentioned two weeks ago and also managed to stay on track despite being at a conference last week. Conferences are always hard on account of erratic schedules and conference foods. I made a point of exercising every morning, taking the stairs when I could, sneaking in a walk as well as watching what I ate. A big help was paying extra for the club access since it meant I could get a healthy breakfast, hydration during the day and also plan for grazing that kept me from eating bad stuff while waiting for late dinners.

With all that, I’m happy to say that I’ve lost 13.4 pounds so far and I think I am well on my way to my goal of losing 15 by May 31. Wish me luck!

Original Beach Image by Pexels from Pixabay

May 1, 2019February 17, 2021

#WriteWed #WisdomWednesday – Self Doubt is an Anchor That Keeps You From Flying Free

Most people think that with over 50 published works in 20 years that I can just sit down and write and write and write. Many know that I normally have a strict regimen of writing every day (work and family permitting). But like many there are moments when self-doubt grabs me and drags me down, especially in this constantly changing publishing landscape. Self-doubt is one of the most debilitating things in life and not just for writing. It can become an anchor that can keep you from success at whatever you want out of life regardless of whether it’s a relationship, career or writing. When those moments come on me, I tell myself to look not at what’s not been done, but at what’s been accomplished. I tell myself that the person who did all that can do anything they absolutely want to do. The only thing standing in the way is my own self-doubt. If you have those moments as well, take a second to share what helps you get over them and move on.

Original Image by Jean van der Meulen from Pixabay

April 13, 2016

#WednesdayWisdom The Freedom of Books

When I was a kid, we didn’t have much. Things were tough in some ways. I was a stranger in a strange land and there was sadness about a lot of things. There wasn’t a lot of money, but there was family and support. Those things do make a big difference in a child’s life. Unfortunately, too many children today lack that family structure.

There were also books. My mom and grandmother were both avid readers and they instilled that love of books in me.

With books, I could go anywhere. I could escape into worlds that were new and different and exciting. I learned new words. In fact, when my parents sacrificed to buy us an encyclopedia set, I read through the entire set and I would do the vocabulary tests in the back and challenge myself to expand my vocabulary.

My mother delighted in that because she knew all that knowledge from those books would help me in life. That it would set me free to do whatever I wanted.

I still read. Not as much as I would like due to time constraints, but any moment that I can, I read the news, magazines, papers, and of course, books.

I know I’m preaching to the choir here since I know so many of you are avid readers. I just hope I can reach someone else to let them know that the power to succeed is something they can hold in their hands.

The power to succeed can be found in a book.